The do’s and dont’s of making a Maid of Honour speech

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Being asked to be the Maid of Honour at your friend’s wedding comes with a whole host of responsibilities, tasks and expectations. Some are hard – like making sure the bridesmaids don’t get too drunk on champagne before walking down the aisle. Some are easy – like organising the hen do! And some are just plain terrifying – like giving a speech at the party. Don’t worry ladies, we’ve compiled a list of do’s and don’ts to make sure your wedding toast goes down a treat.

The Do’s

  1. Do Take it Seriously: Being funny in your speech is all well and good, as long as you can distinguish between comedy and taking the piss. Don’t forget that this day is one of the most important moments of your friend’s life so making sure you honour that in your speech is imperative.
  2. Do Get a Trusted Friend to Approve: Like all things in life, one person’s funny can be another person’s offensive, so edge on the side of caution and get someone you trust, who knows the couple to check, edit and approve your speech before airing it to the masses!
  3. Do Be Yourself: This one is simple. Follow your heart and let your personality guide you. Don’t try to be something you’re not for the sake of the crowd because it will come off disingenuous. If you are hilarious, write a funny speech. If you are sensitive, go for tear jerking memories and anecdotes. If you are sarcastic, whack in a few puns or sarky comments.
  4. Do Practise Before the Day: Reading your speech outloud in front of a mirror or to a select group will help you to monitor tone, pace and will help to iron out any jerky sentences or grammatical errors. To guarentee your speech reads smoothly and seamlessly this step is a necessity.

The Don’ts

  1. Don’t Forget to Thank the Parents: The bride’s (and possibly the groom’s) parents probably put a great deal of effort, energy and money into this day so don’t forget to mention them in the speech. It’s a nice touch, and will make them feel special and important.
  2. Don’t Drag on for Eternity: Everyone loves a good wedding speech. The laughs, the tears, they are all part of the magic of the day. But don’t forget there is food to be eaten, champagne to be drunk and moves to be busted on the dance floor. So keep your speech to a time limit, and stick to it.
  3. Don’t Be Nervous: And if you are, try and fake it. Nerves and awkwardness can make a speech painful to watch. You don’t want the audience to be cringing in their seat, longing for your pain to be over, so instead be cool, calm and collected and the crowd will follow your vibe.
  4. Don’t Be Inappropriate: Some of those old university stories are funny and will get the laughs that any speech maker craves, but some are just plain inappropriate and not fit for a wedding setting. Don’t forget there are probably Grandparents and children in the audience so veto your tales accordingly.